The following are a collection
of readings, poems and prayers that can be brought into your wedding ceremony. They are one way of adding a certain flavor
to your ceremony to help shape it into the wedding of your dreams. Please note that one way of honoring a loved one or a friend
is to invite them to participate in the ceremony by sharing a reading, poem or prayer. This adds drama, warmth, connection
and joy to your ceremony. You could also share the reading, poem or prayer yourself, either to your partner, or together.
Of course, you can always have Reverend Roger present your favorite passage as you take in its rich joy and meaning on your
1 Corinthians 13 (New International Version)
If I speak in the tongues of men and
of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom
all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give
all I possess to the poor, and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy,
it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of
wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always
fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge,
it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When
I was a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we
see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even
as I am fully known.
now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Modern Version Of Paul to the
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous
or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not
rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.
(Bible, part 1 Cor 13)
A Reading from the first letter of Paul to the Corinthians (12:31-13:8)
ambitious for the higher gifts. And I am going to show you a way that is better than any of them. If I have all the eloquence
of men or of angels, but speak without love, I am simply a gong booming or a cymbal clashing. If I have the gift of prophesy,
understanding all the mysteries there are, and knowing everything, and if I have faith in all its fullness, to move mountains,
but without love, then I am nothing at all. If I give away all that I possess, piece by piece, and if I even let them take
my body to burn it, but I am without love, it will do me no good whatever. Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous;
love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offence, and is not resentful. Love takes
no pleasure in other people's sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to
endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.
are the man and the woman who have grown beyond themselves and have seen through their separations. They delight in the way
things are and keep their hearts open, day and night. They are like trees planted near flowing rivers, which bear fruit when
they are ready. Their leaves will not fall or wither. Everything they do will succeed.
Entreat me not to leave thee,
Or to return from following after thee:
For whither thou
goest, I will go,
And where thou lodgest, I will lodge.
Thy people shall be my people,
And thy God my God.
Where thou diest, will I die,
And there will I be buried.
The Lord do so to me, and more also,
ought but death part thee and me.
(Ruth 1: 16-17)
Song of Solomon
The voice of my beloved!
Behold, he comes,
leaping upon the mountains,
bounding over the hills.
beloved speaks and says to me:
"Arise, my love, my fair one,
and come away;
O my dove, in the clefts
of the rock,
'in the covert of the cliff,
let me see your face,
let me hear your voice,
voice is sweet,
and your face is comely.
My beloved is mine and I am his.
Set me as a seal upon your heart,
as a seal upon
for love is strong as death,
jealousy is cruel as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of
a most vehement flame.
Many waters cannot quench love,
neither can floods drown it.
of Solomon 2: 8-10,14,16a. 8:6-7a)
Key To Love
The key to love is understanding...
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word,
but those unspoken gestures,
the little things that say so much by themselves.
The key to love is forgiveness...
to accept each others faults
and pardon mistakes,
without forgetting, but with remembering
what you learn from them.
The key to love is sharing...
Facing your good fortunes as
well as the bad, together;
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways
to intensify your happiness.
The key to love is giving...
thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile,
and by giving in but never giving up.
The key to love is respect...
that you are two separate people, with different ideas; that you don't belong to each other,
that you belong with
each other, and share a mutual bond.
The key to love is inside us all...
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take
you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work... but the rewards are more than
worth the effort...
and that is the key to love.
by Roy Croft (also called 'Love'; also called 'To my Friend')
I love you, not for what
you are, but what I am, when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but what you are
making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out.
I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing
over all the frivolous and weak things that you cannot help seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful
and radiant things that no one else has looked quite far enough to find...
I love you because you have done more than any creed could have
done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy.
You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign.
You have done it by being yourself. Perhaps that is what being a friend means after all.
Apache Marriage Blessing
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be the shelter for each
other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth for the other. Now you are two persons, but there is
only one life before. Go now to your dwelling place to enter into the days of your life together. And may your days be good
and long upon the earth.
Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought
you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration,
difficulty and fear assail your relationship - as they threaten all relationships at one time or another - remember to focus
on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide
the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And
if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.
by Susan Polis Schutz
Love is the strongest feeling known
an all -encompassing
an extreme strength
an overwhelming excitement
Love is trying not to hurt the other person
trying not to change the other person
trying not to dominate the other person
trying not to deceive the other
Love is understanding each other
listening to each other
supporting each other
with each other.
Love is not an excuse to stop growing
not an excuse to stop making yourself better
an excuse to lessen one's goals
not an excuse to take the other person for granted
Love is being completely
honest with each other
finding dreams to share
working towards common goals
sharing responsibilities equally
Everyone in the world wants to love
Love is not a feeling to be taken lightly
Love is a feeling to be cherished, nurtured and cared for
Love is the reason for life
From This Day
From this day forward, let us laugh together, and plan together,
let us find our favorite places,
and go together...
Let us enjoy the sunshine, and the rain,
being alone together, and in crowds together...
From this day forward, together,
Let us love!
Let Us Walk Together
walk together yet not as one, but such that our shadows are separate and distinct, such that our souls are unbound and free.
Let us share our time, yet do not give all your time, nor take all of mine for in order to develop to the fullest, to be free,
we must have solitude and individuality.
Let me wander in solitude, when I need to be alone, yet be near, when I need
you. Let us share our love. Give freely of your love, but do not smother me, my soul must breathe a free air. Take my love,
but do not demand it, for love given of obligation, is stale and without life. Let us share our lives.
Share my life,
but do not try to shape it. Let me share your life, but do not let it revolve around me. Let us share ourselves. Accept me
as I am, do not attempt to change me to fit your dreams. Respect me for what I am, not for what I was or one day may be. Share
yourself with me, but do not allow me to limit your freedom or bind your soul. Let us share our minds, thoughts, goals, values
and dreams. Let us develop these within ourselves without restriction or loss of freedom
Thus our two free souls,
may wander together as they develop in freedom. As we share our lives, as we walk through life together, know my love is yours,
but not my soul for it must be free.
From 'Letters to a Young Poet
Rainer Maria Rilke
For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us,
the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. Loving does not at first
mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person - it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become
something in himself, to become world, to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding
claim on him, something that chose him and calls him to vast distances.
From To Know Yourself, by Swami Satchidananda:
A wedding is between two reflections of God. Two pairs of eyes see one vision. They are dedicated to serve
one another and the humanity at large. Two minds come together to help each other realize their true nature. Going side by
side with the right partner is a good way to reach God quickly. When the husband's and the wife's love for each other
blends together and becomes love of God, marriage is a divine institution.
The next passage is from The Prophet
by Kahlil Gibran.
And what of Marriage, master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together,
and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather
be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and Dance together and be joyous, but each one of you be
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts,
but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet
not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each
When you were children, you
talked like children, But now that you've grown, you should be done with childish things and put them away. When you were
children, you looked into a mirror that gave only a blurred reflection of reality. But with love and maturity, you shouldn't
be afraid to look into that mirror and see each other face to face. Be swift like the wind in loving each other. Be brave
like the sea in loving each other. Be gentle like the breeze in loving each other. Be patient like the sun who waits and watches
the four changes of the earth in loving each other. Be wise like the roaring of the thunder clouds and lightning in loving
each other. Be shining like the morning dawn in loving each other. Be proud like the tree who stands without bending in loving
each other. Be brilliant like the rainbow colors in loving each other. Now, forever, forever, there will be no more loneliness
because your worlds are joined together with the world. Forever, forever.
"When you love someone you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from
moment to moment. It is an impossibility. The only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity, in
freedom, in the sense that dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping even. Security in a relationship
lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what might be in dread or anticipation, but living in
the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. One must accept the security of the winged life, of ebb and flow,
Blessings For A Marriage
Dillet Freeman ~
May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life
grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another - not so much to fill your
emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain
less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things
to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you
apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery,
which is the awareness of one another's presence - no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side-by-side,
and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making
one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.
from The Bridge Across Forever
A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys,
and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely
and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for whom we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best
part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our
soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our
direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.
Marriage Joins Two People In The Circle Of Its Love
Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities
for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for
Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A
wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times
when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger,
even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.
Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life
is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper
than life. When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves,
which binds them, closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people
who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.
By Thomas Kempis
Love is a mighty power,
a great and complete good.
Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places
It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders
all bitterness sweet and acceptable.
Nothing is sweeter than love,
Nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth; for love is born of God.
Love flies, runs and leaps
It is free and unrestrained.
Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds.
no burden, takes no account of toil,
and attempts things beyond its strength.
Love sees nothing as impossible,
for it feels able to achieve all things.
It is strange and effective,
while those who lack love faint and
Love is not fickle and sentimental,
nor is it intent on vanities.
Like a living flame and a
it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle.
What Is Love~
Author Unknown ~
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines
and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives.
For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always
kept, a fortune that can never be spent, and a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance
that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love.
True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love gives with open heart
And true love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines.
Art of Marriage by William Peterson
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not
end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values
and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in
the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting
the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things
of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which
the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the
right partner, it is being the right partner.
Celtic Wedding Blessing
May your mornings bring
joy and your evenings bring peace.
May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.
Be no worse than the
happiest day of your past.
May your hands be forever clasped in friendship
And your hearts joined forever in love.
Your lives are very special,
God has touched you in many ways.
May his blessings rest upon you
fill all your coming days.
These I Can Promise
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;
I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold;
I cannot promise you an easy
That leads away from change or growing old.
But I can promise all my heart's devotion;
smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;
A love that's ever true and ever growing;
A hand to hold in yours
through each tomorrow.
This Day I Married My Best Friend
This day I married my best friend
...the one I laugh with as we share
life's wonderous zest,
as we find new enjoyments and experience all that's best.
...the one I live for
because the world seems brighter
as our happy times are better and our burdens feel much lighter.
...the one I
love with every fiber of my soul.
We used to feel vaguely incomplete, now together we are whole.
A Good Wedding Cake
4 lb. of love.
lb. butter of youth.
1/2 lb. of good looks.
l lb. sweet temper.
1 lb. of blindness for faults.
of self forgetfulness.
l lb. of pounded wit.
l lb. of good humour.
2 tablespoons of sweet argument.
1 pint of rippling laughter.
1 wine glass of common sense.
1 oz. modesty.
Put the love, good looks
and sweet temper into a well furnished house. Beat the butter of youth to a cream, and mix well together with the blindness
of faults. Stir the pounded wit and good humor into the sweet argument, then add the rippling laughter and common sense. Work
the whole together until everything is well mixed, and bake gently for ever.
Eskimo Love Song
You are my husband (wife)
My feet shall run because of you
feet shall dance because of you
My heart shall beat because of you
My eyes see because of you
My mind thinks
because of you
And I shall love because of you.
Why Marriage? by Mari Nichols
Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body...
Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,
Who won't hold them against me,
loves me when I'm unlikable,
Who sees the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me...
Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
I feel blessed to hold...
Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love in friendship...
Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements...
Because marriages do not fail,
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole...
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness
me, I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage...
Because of this
understanding, the possibilities are limitless.
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallow be thy name. Thy Kingdom come, thy
will be done, on earth, as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive
those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thane is the kingdom, and the
power, and the glory, for ever. Amen
Prayer (Option 2)
Let us Pray: Dear God, thank
you for this joyous day. Thank you for Your Light that has entered ___ and ___'s life. Thank you for all the miracles
and blessings. Please bless this union. Help Dianne and Byron find the perfect place in this world for their love to flourish.
Let the radiant light of their love shine on all those around them. May all their future creations be blessed. God, bless
them with the inner gifts of trust, compassion, forgiveness and truth that they may live and grow together in love and peace.
Prayer (Option 3)
Father of mankind, whose nature is love, look with favor upon this
woman and this man who desire to make their vows before you. We are grateful for the providence that has led to this union.
Grant this to be more than an outward union, but also the blending of hearts and spirits and purposes. Bless each with the
inward qualities of integrity, trust, cooperation and forgiveness, that they may live together in love and peace. Amen.
Prayer (option 4)
adapted from Illuminata by Marianne Williamson
Dear God, Please make of this relationship a great and holy adventure. May their joining be a sacred space. May the two
of them find rest here, a haven for their souls. Remove from them any temptation to judge themselves or each other or to direct
each other. May they surrender to You their conflicts and their burdens. We know You are their Answer and their rock. Help
them not forget. Bring them together in heart and mind as well as body and guide them in the ways of holiness. May this relationship
be a burst of light. May it be a fount of love and wisdom for them, for their family, for their community, and for their world.
May this bond be a channel for Your love and healing, a vehicle of Your grace and power. As lessons come and challenges grow,
let them not be tempted to forsake each other. Let them always remember that in each other they have the most beautiful woman,
the most beautiful man, the strongest one, the sacred one in whose arms we are repaired. May they remain young in this relationship.
May they grow wise in this relationship. Bring them what You desire for them. And show them how you would have them be. Thank
You, dear God.
Prayer (option 5)
Gracious God, spirit of life and love, we ask all blessings upon Byron
and Dianne in their life together. May they be blessed with patience, to see them through times of tensions or conflict. May
they be blessed with kindness, to enable them to nurture and care for one another in times of pain or sorrow. May them be
blessed with a spirit of play and joyfulness, that they may participate fully in the beauties and pleasures of creation. May
they be blessed, finally, with a knowledge of the ever-flowing presence of love in the world, that they may be channels of
this love to one another and to all
Us Two from "Now We Are Six" by A.A. Milne
Wherever I am, there's always Pooh, There's
always Pooh and Me.
I do, he wants to do, "Where are you going today?" says Pooh...
"Well, that's very odd 'cos I was too. "Let's go together,"
says Pooh, says he.
go together," says Pooh.
"What's twice eleven?" I said to Pooh, "Twice what?"
said Pooh to Me.
think it ought to be twenty two." "Just what I think myself," said Pooh.
"It wasn't an easy sum to do, But that's what it is," said
Pooh, said he.
what it is," said Pooh.
"Let's look for dragons," I said to Pooh. "Yes, let's," said Pooh to Me.
We crossed the river and found a few... "Yes, those
are dragons all right," said Pooh.
"As soon as I saw their beaks I knew. That's what they are," said Pooh, said he.
"That's what they are," said Pooh.
"Let's frighten the dragons,"
I said to Pooh. "That's right," said Pooh to Me.
"I'm not afraid," I said to Pooh, And I held his paw and I shouted
old dragons!"... and off they flew. "I wasn't afraid," said Pooh, said he,
"I'm never afraid with you." So wherever
I am, there's always Pooh,
There's always Pooh and Me.
"What would I do?" I said to Pooh, "If it wasn't for you," and Pooh said... "True,
It isn't much fun for
One, but Two Can stick together," says Pooh, says he.
"That's how it is," says Pooh.
Excerpt From "The Velveteen Rabbit"
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when
they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things
that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to
you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but Really loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse,
for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or
bit by bit?"
doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't
happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you
are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get all loose in the joints and very shabby.
But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't
From A.A. Milne's
When We Were Very Young
Between the woods the afternoon
Is fallen in a golden swoon.
The sun looks
down from quiet skies
To where a quiet water lies,
And silent trees stoop down to trees.
there I saw a white swan make
Another white swan in the lake;
And, breast to breast, both motionless,
They waited for the wind's caress...
And all the water was at ease.